How soon should I send wedding thank you notes?

Etiquette says within three months of your wedding date, but the sooner the better. Aim to send notes within 2–4 weeks for gifts received before the wedding, and within 2–3 months for gifts received on or after your wedding day. For baby showers, send notes within 2–3 weeks of the event.

What should a thank you note include?

A good thank you note includes: the giver's name, the specific gift (not just 'your gift'), something personal about how you'll use it or why it matters, and a warm closing. The more specific you are, the more sincere it feels. A handwritten note with 3–5 sentences is all you need.

Is it okay to send thank you notes by email or text?

For wedding gifts, handwritten notes are strongly preferred — it shows the effort matches the gift. For baby showers, a mix is acceptable: handwritten for close family and friends, email or text for acquaintances. For birthdays and holidays, a sincere text or DM is completely fine.

What if I don't know exactly what the gift was?

Be vague but warm. Instead of "the beautiful serving bowl," write "your thoughtful and generous gift." If it was cash or a gift card, you can say "your generous gift" and then mention something specific you're planning to use it for, like "we're putting it toward our honeymoon" or "we're saving it for the nursery."

Can I use the same wording for multiple thank you notes?

Use it as a starting point, but personalize each note with at least one specific detail — the actual gift, a shared memory, or something about your relationship with the giver. The goal is for each person to feel seen, not to feel like they got the same card as everyone else.

How long should a thank you note be?

3–5 sentences is the sweet spot. Long enough to feel genuine, short enough to actually write 60 of them. Include: a thank you for the specific gift, one sentence about how you'll use it or why it's meaningful, and a warm closing. That's it.

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Tips for a great thank you note

→ Name the specific gift — not just "your gift"
→ Add one detail about how you'll use it
→ For cash: mention what you plan to do with it
→ Handwrite wedding notes when possible
→ Send within 2–3 weeks of the event

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Dear Aunt Linda,

Thank you so much for the beautiful beautiful KitchenAid stand mixer. We've already used it to make our first batch of cookies as newlyweds! We are so grateful to have you in our lives and to have shared our wedding day with you. Your thoughtfulness and generosity mean more to us than words can express.

With so much love,
Sarah & Mike

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